23 Oct 2009

First “Chewables” Post

This should have been a cut and dry copy paste but I don’t consider the link thought provoking nor practical.In fact, the reason I’m even posting this is because many adult couples seem to get that they need to treat their partners as equals or at least within the boundaries of their culture but when it comes to the Hikikomori phenomenon, even the so-called experts seem to be baffled as to why a Hikikomori would commit a crime when they are disturbed.

  • A separate work area is critical. My husband eventually moved to another room to his own space and can close the door as needed.
  • Respect privacy - knock on the door and also ask if okay to interrupt.
  • Work flow patterns should be recognized. Your way isn’t the only way to work.
  • Communicate about quitting times. If you expect your partner to be done and able to play at a certain time, you need to discuss it.
  • If possible, take a coffee or lunch break together. Isn’t it nice to hang out with your partner in the middle of the workday?
Source: http://www.jobacle.com/blog/2009/10/21/co-working-with-your-co-habitant.html This doesn’t hold enough details though to be a howto nor is this something you can just hand over to anyone you’re living with and they’ll suddenly “get it” especially if it’s a senior or higher authority.

This is why it’s so troublesome to think of what to tag this.It’s really one of those cookie cutter labels that you might see on generic slide shows to the point that it’s only useful if you print out the bullets and even then it’s just like a fun post that won’t make a difference if you read it or not.

Even worse, it could just make the reader go: “Yup! Yup! Parents suck!”Eventually, I settled for creating a new tag called “chewables” because if you omit everything I wrote here, this is no different than any run-of-the-mill nano-blog posts that you spot, pause, maybe reply and then forget except it’s not as cool because there’s no picture or smiley face in it.

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25 Sep 2009

No country or population is more pure than another

Full quote:

No country or population is more pure than another, they each have flaws, although they can be different, and the definition of a ‘flaw’ can vary depending on culture and history, it’s all the same when it comes to the victim.

Like I said in an earlier comment, you’ll enjoy your life far more if you just forget instead of discovering more of the world. I don’t regret my decision since I rather see cruelty and face it daily than be ignorant, but this doesn’t even come close to what some people would call ‘sick and awful’ anymore, and you can see in the comments that I’m far from the only one who knows that.


The context of this quote is directed at a far far more severe issue than why I’m quoting this

…however the reason I wanted to share this with my fellow Hikikomoris is because of the way some anxiety based ones feel they are worthless compared to their fellow non-Hikikomori neighbors and how some people feel that Japan should have the monopoly on who should be categorized as Hikikomoris.

I have even read some posts pointing out how that this wouldn’t happen in America for example because the parent would just throw the person out on the street. They have some validity but sometimes these…”words” feel like one culture saying these things to “one up” another culture or another group.

I don’t have a quote with me but there are some forums where they would even argue which of their idol’s hometown is more dangerous just so they can say that their guy has more “street cred”.

Exceptionalism is very detrimental to a community and is in fact one reason why despite saying I had an elitist definition of Hikikomoris, I am not for pushing those people who don’t fit the definition to leave our environment. (This is also a hint at why some Hikkis can be so affected emotionally by some people forcing them to leave and alter their environment that they would go to such an extent as to kill or hurt that person.)

That’s why this quote comes off good (for us); with or without the context.

It is able to hint that it’s not just a country issue but a population issue. That means it can apply to any group even a small one like ours.

It highlights the stupid side of patriotism and alludes to exceptionalism without offending those same people by bringing up some specific issue they did but rather by challenging these people’s view of how pure they see themselves as a group.

It even hints at how escapism is not about withdrawing but on choosing to be ignorant of certain things.

On the flip side, it also hints at how withdrawing can also be a decision to escape or forget.

One compliments the Hikikomori’s decision, the other shows the noble necessity for why a huge portion of being a Hikikomori is about making a decision — for without that component, a Hikikomori would not know or forget what they are withdrawing from — and without that, the definition of Hikikomori loses any intangible quality that makes it different from normal social anxiety.

(except the fact that the word is Japanese if you buy that exceptionalist perception)



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